The Art of Healing

"Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well." 

~ 3 John 1:2: ~ 

Do you feel stuck in a version of yourself that no longer fits—like you’ve outgrown who you are but don’t know how to break free? Maybe you’ve been carrying habits, thoughts, or expectations that no longer serve you, yet the idea of change feels impossible. If this sounds familiar, it might be time to turn inward and start your healing journey. 

Growth begins the moment you acknowledge that you deserve more. You are not confined to who you’ve been—transformation is always possible. The first step? Prioritizing yourself and committing to the process of becoming who you truly want to be. 

The truth is, change is never impossible. With the right mindset and discipline, you can reshape any part of yourself that no longer aligns with who you want to be. But sometimes, real growth isn’t about forcing change—it’s about learning to embrace what’s already within you. 

I’ve come to accept that I am not a clubbing person. There was a time I tried to be, thinking that maybe I was missing out on something, that maybe I just needed to push myself out of my comfort zone. But the more I ignored my discomfort, the louder it became. It’s not just about disliking crowds—it’s the energy, the noise, the fleeting connections that don’t resonate with me. I’ve started to understand the kind of people drawn to that scene—not with judgment, but with clarity. Some people thrive in that space, but I don’t. And that’s okay. 

The more I listen to myself, the more I realize that alignment isn’t about fitting in—it’s about honoring who I am at my core. And for me, that means choosing environments and experiences that nourish me, not drain me. 

Gentle Reminders for Your Healing Journey: Embracing Growth, Self-Compassion, and Patience 

~  Healing means trusting that higher power and realizing that you do not have all the answers: One of the most powerful things that helped me on my healing journey was learning to trust in a higher power and realizing that I do not have all the answers. I prayed—prayed for God to take the time to heal me from the wounds of my past, to remove the thoughts and beliefs that had consumed and controlled my life for so long. Through prayer and fasting, I found strength in surrendering to something greater than myself, something that could guide me in ways I couldn’t do alone. A key part of this journey was understanding that it’s okay not to have everything figured out. I needed that higher power to help me navigate, to show me the compassion I was struggling to show myself. Healing is about surrendering the need to control everything and trusting that I am being guided, even when I can’t see the full picture. 

~ Healing is nonlinear: Just like anything else, your healing journey will have its ups and downs. There will be days when you feel so light and free that it almost feels surreal. But there will also be days when the weight of old wounds creeps back in, making you blind to all the progress you’ve made. And that’s okay—because you’re human, and you have emotions. But setbacks do not equal failures. You can pick yourself back up and continue from where you were. You just have to actually get back up and start to walk until you can run again. 

~  Healing Is a Lifelong Journey:  Some people believe that once you’ve healed from childhood trauma, the work is done—that you’ve reached a point where healing is no longer necessary. But that couldn’t be further from the truth. Healing isn’t a destination; it’s an ongoing process, woven into the fabric of life itself. Life is unpredictable, and the only certainty is its uncertainty. Challenges will come, not because you’ve done something wrong, but because you can’t control everything—people, circumstances, or outcomes. But what you can control is how you grow from those experiences, how you choose to heal, again and again. 

~  Healing needs patience: As I mentioned before, healing is a lifelong journey, and once you begin, it becomes a continuous process throughout your life. It’s not something that happens overnight—it takes time, consistency, and, above all, patience. Patience with yourself, with others, and with life itself. Don’t rush such a transformative process. With the right mindset, healing can be a beautiful and enriching experience. Even in the low moments, you can find contentment if you train your mind to embrace it. So, be still. Allow yourself to enjoy the journey, trust in its rhythm, and watch as the doors it opens begin to guide you to new, better places. “My friends, remember to be happy, even when many kinds of trouble happen to you. Troubles can help you.” James 1:2 

~  Healing requires self-compassion: It’s easier to focus on the struggles, the challenges, and the things that aren't going as planned. And we often find it easier to point out the flaws than to acknowledge the good within us. But healing is not found in the harshness of self-criticism, but in the gentleness of self-compassion. You have to be kind to yourself on this path because you deserve the kind of love and understanding that you would give to a loved one. You are worthy of understanding, even in your most imperfect moments. It’s okay to not have all the answers. It’s okay to stumble. What matters is that you continue to show up for yourself, to offer the kindness and love you need along the way. 

~  Healing requires letting go of the past: I recently watched this adorable movie called Girl Haunts Boy, and it ended with a quote that really stuck with me: “The past can illuminate the way for years to come in our future. And as long as we hold on to it, it never really stops being present.” It made me reflect on how the past often lingers in ways we don’t realize. Sometimes, we carry our old experiences, hurts, and memories as if they are a part of our present, shaping our decisions and how we move forward. But the truth is, in order to truly grow and heal, we must learn to let go. Letting go of the past doesn’t mean forgetting it or denying it. It means releasing the grip it has on us, allowing it to teach us what it needs to, but not allowing it to keep us stuck in a cycle. When we hold on too tightly, the past can prevent us from truly embracing the future and stepping into the person we are meant to be. Healing is about learning to honor the past, without letting it define us. It’s about moving forward, free from the weight of things that no longer serve us. 

~ Healing requires changing the beliefs that no longer fit: A lot of the time, we carry beliefs that have been shaped by those around us—our parents, the people we surround ourselves with, or even society as a whole. These beliefs influence the way we think and see the world, often without us even realizing it. But just because something has been ingrained in us doesn’t mean it’s true, or that it continues to serve us. Healing requires more than just learning new things; it also involves unlearning the beliefs that no longer fit or hold us back. It’s about recognizing what we’ve internalized that no longer aligns with who we are becoming, and having the courage to let go of those outdated truths. It’s a process of freeing ourselves from the limitations of the past and making space for new beliefs that empower us to move forward.  

 ~ Healing means accepting the parts of yourself that you’ve been afraid to love: True healing happens when you stop resisting the parts of you that feel broken or unworthy. It’s about embracing your flaws, your scars, and your vulnerabilities with compassion. When you accept all that you are—your light and your shadows—you make space for deep transformation, and in that acceptance, you find the freedom to heal. 

Remember that this is not just a process—it’s a sacred journey that allows us to reconnect with our truest selves. It’s in the moments of stillness, the quiet whispers of the soul, that transformation takes place. As you walk this path, remember that the light you seek is already within you, guiding you toward wholeness. Embrace the flow of life, surrender to the lessons, and trust that everything is unfolding in divine timing. 

May your heart continue to heal, expand, and shine brightly as you embrace the beautiful person you are becoming. 

With love, 

Nyasia Davis